LOVE, SEX & MONEY

Don’t worry I intend to treat this topic like the hot potato it is, bear with me as I attempt to move from A to Z without dropping it. Once again, another high profile marriage falls apart, no name dropping, but I will say I’m talking about the tech-philanthropist.

If you google what percentage of marriages end in divorce, google will tell you that 50% of marriages are doomed from the get-go. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a gamble to me, and I don’t gamble. With that being said, I do believe in marriage, I’m just not sure about the current social climate.

I ask my parents about these things, because they seem to have a successful marriage. I’ll tell you what my mother said, since old men speak a very cryptic language. My mother says, marriage is about companionship, and that respect for one another is a very big part of having a successful marriage.

Humans are social creatures; isolation is toxic to us. Drake said it best in his song ‘From time’, who wants to be 70 and alone?

Another character that has me super curious is a black American man named Kevin Samuel, who highlights some very interesting differences between men and women of the modern world, when it comes to relationships and marriage.

Here is what I’m hearing from the world, even though love brings people together and makes them want to build together, marriage is not about love. Ok, it’s not just about love, you have to be able to grow together. I can understand that, assuming marriage is like picking someone you wouldn’t mind being in lock up with.

Another thing I was told, is that marriage is work. Which explains why there’s only a 50% chance of it working out, think of all the dating apps we have today, and how easy it is to exercise one’s options. Who has time to put in the work? Do you meet my checklist of expectations? If not, can we keep it moving.

Assuming this sort of social climate isn’t going to change for the betterment of the marriage arena, and the family structure, where does it leave those of us who still believe in marriage but hate to gamble?

The reason I still believe matrimony is because I know the family unit is one of the best environments to raise a child, this is about the children not me. When I say family unit, I of course mean one which includes a loving father and mother, ideally who still love and respect one another under the same roof. However, research has found that as long the parents are present in the child’s life, it doesn’t matter whether they are married or not. Now, raising children is no walk in the park, I’d rather have a team player to do that with, rather than try to raise children with someone I’m going to fight with at even turn. And if one does find a partner who is a team player, why not marry them and build a dynasty with them, save yourself the heartache and money.

In the 30 years I’ve spent on this planet, I’ve met one or two people who I could see myself settling down with, however, the timing wasn’t right and I wasn’t the only one who saw that. These are not good numbers. I find that most people are only interested in what they can gain, and not what we can gain from each other, which has made me a bit cynical about anyone’s chances of finding something that can work.

So, perhaps the only option for a guy like me is to get a vasectomy and go the playboy route. Perhaps these genes were not meant to keep going. The world already has plenty of greatness in it, fuck you need me for? .

Conceited maybe. You see, this is what I’m talking about, who needs anymore of that shit?

Every pleasure you taste has its price baby- Miguel

When I speak of marriage I mean longevity. How many people who marry will remain married through sickness and in health till death do them part? I mean, vows are just words in the face of adversity for some people.

I don’t know what it is, but something has attacked the family structure and is doing a very good job at it. This is/will affect the human race as a whole, whether for the better or worse, is yet to be determined. I wonder if the reptilians have something to do with this?

Who wants to be 70 and alone? I guess we just need to learn to take responsibility for the people we choose to love, hold each other accountable for who we choose to be, be ready to put in the work and stop looking for the easy way out, if anything for the sake of the children.

Society has a lot of work to do if it hopes to be any sort of shining example for the next generation. I recommend that everyone go through a few sessions of therapy with a professional before getting into a relationship, there are plenty of people out here who have been traumatized by various life experiences, and have no business trying to have intimate relationships in their current states.

Plus, always remember, there is a correlation between poor mental health and poverty. In this case not restricting poverty to financial matters.

By –Simon D.M. Karanja